Your Self-Acceptance and Trust Lead You to the Top of Your Mountain - Part 2
Episode 12 Part 2
Hello and welcome to The Tricks of Trauma Program
And we’re back with part 2 of,
Your Self-Acceptance and Trust Leads You to the Top of Your Mountain
Let's delve deeper into the intricate dynamics of acceptance, particularly concerning differences, and why it poses such a significant challenge to overcome. In our world today, let’s face it, conflicts are everywhere, from wars being waged, that are rooted in complicated and conflicting ideologies, to the daily struggles we face in defending our personal values, guidelines, and beliefs. And how do we complicate these ongoing conflicts? By our elaborate constructs – the intricate frameworks discussed in episode 11 that dictate our actions and decisions. The reasons why we do what we do.
When we operate without being aware of what these constructs are, and the beliefs that underpin them, we find ourselves entangled in a never-ending battle of opposing forces. It is a form of energy, which causes you to take sides based on your unquestioned convictions, and it is how you ultimately condemn those who differ. When you pick one side to be right, you automatically make the other side wrong. It's a cycle we've perpetuated throughout our entire history.
And what are the consequences of these underlying reasons for our actions, when we act based on these hidden motivations without even realizing it? Well, remember Einstein’s famous definition of insanity: doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting different results. Well, it’s sort of like that, as we continuously tend to proclaim the righteousness of our beliefs.
When we firmly set ourselves in our own personal convictions, we inevitably cast those out, who disagree with us as being wrong. And what does that perpetuate? The Not Enough Syndrome. This is how we create division amongst ourselves, all because of underlying beliefs and constructs we are not even aware of, that prevent us from recognizing our interconnectedness, compassionate understanding, and cooperation. But deep down within us, there's an undeniable longing to bring this awareness back into the radiant light of our consciousness.
We've lost touch with our true selves and have forgotten the golden rule: to love our neighbor as ourselves.
How can we truly love others when we don't know and appreciate ourselves? We've overlooked the simple truth that whatever we do to our fellow earth travelers, we're also doing to ourselves.
Why? Because we've overlooked our interconnectedness. It's as if we've forgotten how to perceive energy, and because we can't see it with our eyes, we deny its existence. Personally, I had never been taught about energy beyond its practical applications like powering appliances or putting gas in my car, until I jumped into Quantum Physics. Yet, most people generally acknowledge that matter isn't solid. So why the hesitation to acknowledge the presence and awareness of our personal energy? It's due to ingrained constructs and ideas that suggest it doesn't exist, is impossible, or is a figment of someone’s imagination. Yet many people can see other people’s auras. We are more than just flesh and bones.
As you expand your awareness, you begin to gain further insight into your essence and who you are. You are not just a teeny tiny grape dangling from the vine; you are the vine itself. You cannot separate yourself from the vast interconnected web of existence which is All That Is. You are essence, and there is no separation in the grand scheme of things, as we are all interconnected.
As we come to focus here on Earth, we lose sight of our true nature, and forget our roots. We have many, many, many, outdated beliefs and constructs that have been passed down through the centuries. These ideas are clouding our understanding of who we are. It's vital not only to acknowledge them, but to question them, so we can expand beyond these limitations, as we come to realize they are simply enforced by our constructs, which are what? Ideas that become the reasons for why we do what we do. And we can change them. Remember, you are not destined to wither away like a tiny grape, shriveling into a mere raisin, to find yourself in a bowl of cereal one day. But I digress.
In today's climate, we have a lot of people making others wrong. There are countless individuals who are quick to condemn others for their differing points of view. There are many subjects surfacing today in relation to gender, culture, race, politics to debates on economics and various theories, including those labeled as conspiracy. And what is the one common theme they all hold? They’re all about putting the emphasis on differences.
We have created century, upon century, upon century, of endless conflict rooted in being taught the lack of acceptance of whatever we perceive to be different in our world. Yet in order to change our reality, we must uproot this idea, and accept what is different from our own beliefs and ideologies instead. You can still dislike or even hate whatever that difference is, but you can still be accepting of it at the same time.
Acceptance holds immense power as it strips away judgment, and just like a magic trick, it makes conflicts vanish into thin air. The snake of opposing energy, which is always slithering around when you have to justify what's right and wrong, finds itself decapitated with acceptance. Acceptance, much like appreciation, serves as a mighty sword that severs its existence. It stops the fight. It's an important insight worth pondering deeply.
We have spent lifetimes of years justifying our lack of acceptance, justifying our stance on what is right and wrong, whether it’s cultural, racial, religious, or political. It doesn’t matter what the subject is. Each side claims their moral high ground, perpetuating an intergenerational cycle where one is deemed superior while the other plays the victim. This ongoing tug-of-war creates tremendous division, disharmony, tension, strife, and turmoil. And what else? Trauma. Then we wonder why we seek therapy.
Our lack of acceptance of differences creates a tremendous amount of opposing energy in our world. We believe that we can pray into existence peace and goodwill to our fellow earth travelers, when it is we who have to change. We have been given perennial knowledge throughout our history on how to do so, but we haven’t done what it says. And when we don’t, the knowledge loses its power.
So why don’t we? Because we have been conditioned to hope for some kind of resolution to be given to us. It has been ingrained inter-generationally that when we perceive a problem, or outside threat, we react, and then look for someone to give us a solution, looking to external sources for our salvation. We have been taught to obey outside authority and to obey what we are told from the moment we are born.
We find ourselves trapped in victimhood, consumed by fear and the unaddressed influences of trauma, accepting this as our reality. Oh, it’s just fine. It’s quite normal. That’s the way the world works, we tell ourselves. We become paralyzed with fear and unable to take action, we surrender ourselves to the comfort of following orders and relying on others to lead us out of our predicament. This state of victimhood, perpetuated by the influence of trauma, becomes normalized, shaping our behavior and blinding us to the possibility of change, as we wait to be rescued.
Remember, the victim always needs someone to save or rescue them, almost like a comforting daydream. It is a common fantasy. But perhaps it's time we recognize the futility of this approach and take ownership of our own personal role and responsibilities. How? By fostering acceptance, trust, compassionate understanding, and cooperation with ourselves and others instead. It’s like taking a step towards growing up, where you don’t need to rely on others to dictate your choices and actions, to solve your problems. After all, have you ever stopped to think about who or what really is right and wrong?
Many would argue that having peace on Earth seems nearly impossible, especially considering the ongoing conflicts and wars that persist.
Yet, we often don’t have peace even in our own homes.
We've been taught many constructs to justify going to war as being noble, even to the point of sacrificing our lives for our country. But these justifications, these constructs, these ideas, have led countless soldiers to their demise, caught in a cycle of suicide and murder on the battlefield. It has been a form of population control from the beginning of our histories.
It's high time we challenge these deeply ingrained beliefs and ideas, and take a realistic and logical look at what we are doing. Let’s use all the faculties of our minds and some good old common sense to determine what is best for us personally. Then we can demolish these outdated constructs with our metaphorical dynamite and blow them up. Instead, we can reconstruct our reality, by following our own hearts and minds, values and aspirations. We can seek peace from within and rebuild our world aligned with new constructs and ideas. In other words, new reasons for why we do what we do, that are to our greatest benefit. But remember, you can’t change what you refuse to acknowledge.
Each individual must discover their unique path in this journey, recognizing the significance of their contribution. As each of us embarks on the climb up our personal mountains, our collective communities and societies also become transformed. Through cooperation, mutual respect, and goodwill, we empower ourselves and uplift our shared existence. It's has become critical to revive a sense of honor and unity amongst ourselves, a value that has vanished into a puff of smoke from the devastating shockwave of World War II.
This is why it's crucial to address the lingering trauma stemming from conflicts like World War II, which unfolded over eight decades ago, as well as the ongoing challenges presented by the pandemic and what may still lie ahead. Otherwise, the cycle of victim and perpetrator will continue, leaving us vulnerable and powerless, obeying and complying to the dictates of others who claim to act in our best interests, which can include eating a diet of insects and bugs.
The key point here is that perceived threats often come up when differences whether in opinions, beliefs, or identities, are openly expressed. It's as if the mere existence of these differences is enough to set off our alarm bells, triggering a defensive reaction in many of us. We've become conditioned to see differences as inherently dangerous, something to be feared and suppressed, rather than embraced and celebrated. In other words, we need to change our perception in believing that, “ALL DIFFERENCES ARE THREATENING.”
This fear of the unknown, this discomfort with what doesn't fit neatly into our preconceived ideas, permeates our interactions and it fuels conflict on both personal and global scales. But what if, instead of viewing differences as threats, we saw them as opportunities for growth, learning, and understanding? What if we approached diversity with curiosity and openness, recognizing the richness it brings to our lives and communities instead? It's a paradigm shift that requires courage and humility, but one that holds the promise of a more harmonious and inclusive world.
Fear has always been the underlying piece that has been passed down from generation to generation to generation, and it has always been with us as a species. This is what we are transforming. How? The more self-aware you become, the less fearful you are. The energy of fear always swirls in the victim vortex. Of course, fear can never be completely erased from our world. Why? Because it is a choice, and you cannot deny choice. Whatever it is, wherever you are, you always have choice and that can never be denied you. That is an innate quality we all possess, in that each and every one of us always has the power to choose, which includes the choice to be fearful, and so it cannot be eradicated.
So why is difference so threatening? Because everyone wants to be part of the group, to be the same, and they don’t want to be different.
They don’t want to be outside of the group as they want to be included. Why? Because when you are the same, when you are included, you are validating each other. When you are different, when you are outside of the group, there is automatically the judgment that something is wrong with you because you don’t fit in. And naturally if you see that something is wrong with someone, then that’s a threat, because if there is something wrong then they can infect the others.
All this tumultuous energy we are witnessing in our world today is bubbling up to the top of what has been writhing underneath the surface for so many, many, many centuries. Now it’s all coming to the surface, like a big pot that is coming to an enormous boil.
Welcome to the Shift.
Eventually this energy will hit a critical point, in which it will either burst and explode, dramatically relieving the pressure, or it will be punctured, which at least is a more gradual process. Regardless of which direction we move in, this opposing and intense energy will be dissipated. Out of chaos always comes order, signaling a transformative shift indeed.
And it all comes down to our perception. Your personal contribution to this shift lies in aligning and refining your perception while addressing your own trauma. What is your perspective? If you find yourself taking sides or if you are feeling distressed, hopeless, or depressed due to the chaos in the world - be it related to gender, race, culture, wars, or conflicts - you inadvertently fuel the very issues you oppose. In other words, you are lending energy to the conflict. In essence, you're rippling out opposing energy from your own energy bubble until you change your perspective. Do you recall Episode 7 where I discussed this?
So, the question arises: How can you stop contributing energy to the conflict? Well, you're entitled to your own opinions, guidelines, and preferences, and you don’t have to approve or like what's happening in our world. You don’t as I mentioned even have to agree with it. However, it's about not getting caught up in what you don’t like or appreciate. How? By acknowledging and accepting what is.
You begin to recognize that each individual is navigating their own unique journey, guided by their personal understanding of what's right. Then, you might have a profound epiphany, a moment of clarity, when it hits you that everyone's point of view is valid, including your own. Suddenly, it's like a burst of fireworks illuminating the sky, as you realize that no one, absolutely no one, is wrong in their beliefs. That is indeed quite a shift in perspective, and it's this realization that transforms your reality. Why? Because it changes your perception of the world, and leads you to a profoundly different experience of it. It's truly a remarkable transformation.
Remember, you don’t have to like it, and you might even hate whatever it is. But that doesn’t automatically make them or the situation wrong. Why? Once again, because everyone is entitled to their own beliefs, shaping their own reality and choices. And it’s okay if you don’t agree with them, because, in turn, hey, they don’t agree with you either. And you can accept that, by neutralizing and letting go of judgments of right or wrong. This is the key to shifting our reality from its historical past. It's an important part of the trauma healing process, deeply embedded within us through generations of influence since the dawn of time.
This highlights the crucial need for self-awareness. We're constantly being bombarded with vast amounts of information that mold our perceptions, often without being aware of the ideas we consume. These ideas unwittingly manipulate us, causing us to behave as if we are a puppet on a string, when we don’t question them.
Whether they come from the media, educational institutions, or any other authoritative source, these avenues all heavily influence our perception. It's high time to question and scrutinize whether these ideas that are not being produced by you, truly serve your greatest benefit, and by extension, our humanity's as well.
When you blindly follow the latest trends, fads, scholars, and experts, it leads people to act together in the same way, and to conform. We often unquestionably trust the media and accept what we're taught in school. After all, education is meant to enlighten us, right? But who's behind the textbooks and the scripts read by news anchors? The same narrative is echoed nationwide, shaping our perceptions to be the same.
If we trust these sources without question, we unwittingly fall into line, and conform to their influence. We end up following and adopting ideas that are presented, which are designed to sway who you vote for, who you will follow, or even to lock yourself down in your home when instructed, and many other things you will do without question.
This mass influence often goes unnoticed as you strive to fit in, following whatever the latest trend is, just to belong and get along. And then we become divided with those who don’t go along and resist, such as our friends and family, fracturing our relationships because of our judgments, we enable those in power to pursue their agendas unchecked, and to their own advantage. United we stand, divided we fall.
Throughout history even to this present day, rulers have understood the power of suggestion. They understand how to present their ideas in a compelling way, so that people often follow without question. When we're not aware of their influence, we tend to comply and justify our actions by believing we're doing what's best for everyone.
But in reality, we're giving away our personal power, and not doing what is to our greatest benefit. When we go along with the crowd, we are sacrificing our own needs and desires for the sake of conforming to the group. This is how you as an individual become no longer important. And so, you may see yourself as a mere grape, destined to be a raisin.
This is why it is so vital to pay attention to what you are doing, rather than constantly monitoring what the government or what other people are doing? There are so many people who spend an inordinate amount of time glued to their screens. They are watching and absorbing news and information from different points of view, paying attention to all the dire circumstances, and they forget to pay attention to themselves. This is why it is so important to pause and reflect and ask yourself:
What are you personally doing? How are you contributing? What patterns are you perpetuating? And what are you aligning yourself with? These introspective questions can guide you towards greater self-awareness and move you to take more meaningful action each day.
Each of us is a unique individual amidst the mass collective of humanity. It's this diversity that makes each person precious, invaluable, and important. Your actions, what you do, is important and you carry much significance, as each of us contributes to the collective in every direction. So, consider what evidence do you have, how do you know who plays the role of villain or victim, and in that, where do you align yourself in these narratives?
We all possess our own uniqueness, yet we often feel threatened and uneasy about it. Why? Because we have all been taught and learned what? To be the same. And this is very important to note. Why? Because this is how we learned not to trust ourselves. And we must learn to trust ourselves again, to value our uniqueness, and our importance. Otherwise, we will continue to fall into these traps and create more trauma, conflict, and destruction, before we unlock ourselves out of our snare. Trapped at the base of our mountain, giving our power away, following other people’s ideas, as we have been conditioned to live in fear since the dawn of our history. And the time has come to change this.
That's precisely why this is such a challenge - not in grasping the idea or understanding it intellectually, but to do it. To truly change yourself, to direct your own path by honoring your wants, desires, preferences, and to become your own authority, all the while embracing difference. These are the three pivotal keys. When you use them to unlock your door, they will transform your reality. Once you've crossed those three thresholds, you'll find yourself sitting atop your mountain peak.
This requires trust and faith, knowing that when you set an intention to do something, it will come to pass. You don’t know when or how, but you know with absolute certainty, that each step you take, brings you to the fulfillment of what your intention is. There is no doubt, no worry, because you trust yourself to accomplish and you become unstoppable. That is quite the position to find yourself in, would you not agree?
And this is what the Tricks of Trauma Program is about, to assist you in navigating the complexities of reality, to lift you out of confusion, to stop fighting with yourself, so you can move into your self-trust and acceptance, and that of the world around you. This is what grows your confidence. And when you are confident in yourself and who you are, then there is nothing that will threaten you. Now when you are confident, that doesn’t mean that you dominate over others, it simply means that you are not afraid. You are expanding your awareness to have the clarity in which you will not put yourself in positions of danger.
The more empowered you become, the greater your confidence grows. However, it's important to redefine what confidence truly means, beyond what we have been taught to express it is. In the Tricks of Trauma Program, confidence is synonymous with knowing. It's about understanding your own capabilities without making others feel smaller. True confidence stems from recognizing your inner strength and power. When you reach the top of your personal mountain and embrace your power with confidence, you'll attract others to uplift rather than pull them down.
When you are breaking someone down to make them smaller and to make yourself larger and more important, that’s a false confidence. And where does that come from? FEAR. When you are genuinely confident, then that fear dissipates, and you are not afraid. And when you are not afraid you can do anything. Fear is what prevents you from lifting others up. But when you can overcome fear, you encourage others to come to know their own confidence as well. You will naturally want to uplift others. Why? Because no one wants to be alone.
As your awareness expands, and you come out of the shadows, you will also be illuminated with the understanding of what interconnectedness is. We are inherently social beings, meant to venture out into the world so that we can welcome our authentic selves.
Embracing our interconnected nature is at the core of our being, reminding us that we are not meant to live in isolation. And when you find the courage to overcome your fear and you claim your power through your sense of confidence, you realize that stepping out into the world as your true self, heralds a transformative shift in your perception and therefore reality.
Let’s pause here. So far in part 2 of this transformative journey, we've delved deep into the intricacies of acceptance, trust, and interconnectedness. As we continue to unravel the layers of conditioning and trauma, we awaken to the profound realization that we hold the power to shape our reality. By embracing acceptance and trust, we free ourselves from the shackles of judgment and fear, paving the way for profound personal transformation. Each step we take towards authenticity and cooperation not only transforms our own lives but it ripples out to uplift and inspire those around us. Let’s carry forward this newfound understanding with boundless optimism and a steadfast commitment to discovering and coming to know who we truly are.
And remember, truth is always relative to what you believe.
Until next time,
Take self-care.