Hello and Welcome to The Tricks of Trauma Program
And we’re back with Part 4 of,
Your Self-Acceptance and Trust Lead You to the Top of Your Mountain
Let’s begin by asking, why does your self-acceptance and trust propel you to the top of your mountain?
It's because they're the fuel for your transformation. As you progress along the path I have been outlining in The Tricks of Trauma Program, which is aimed at assisting your climb to the top, it will become increasingly clear that you are not broken and need to be fixed. You realize that there is nothing wrong with you, or that needs to be eliminated or disposed of.
You come to a deep knowing that you're in perfect working order, complete and deserving, just as you are, simply because you breathe. And you accomplish your climb to the top once you can accept yourself just as you are, and you can trust the choices and decisions you make. In other words, you genuinely know that you are perfectly okay, and that you hold wondrous qualities in this focus of your existence. That is what it means to be accepting of self.
Embracing self-acceptance and trust allows you to shift your energy to accept every aspect of your reality without judgment or resistance. And remember, whatever you resist, will persist. You move into acceptance when you can recognize, acknowledge, and value every thought, feeling, and experience. Especially the tough ones, no matter how challenging, uncomfortable, or even traumatic. You transform these experiences into your pearls of wisdom, as you come to value what is not comfortable. Your acceptance and trust in yourself, magically opens the door to healing your trauma and it ignites your transformation.
It's important to understand that acceptance doesn’t mean you have to approve or have unconditional love for everything that unfolds in your life either. Rather, it's about releasing resistance, you know, the fight, by decapitating the head of the slithering snake of opposing energy, so you can surrender to the flow of life. It's about relinquishing the need to control or manipulate your reality. You can finally let go of the constant need to bend situations or people to fit your preconceived notions, ideals, and expectations.
In today's world, the idea of control permeates every corner of our lives, shaping our perceptions and our actions at every turn. We live in a society that is fixated on the idea of control, where every facet of life seems subject to manipulation and regulation. Embracing self-trust, therefore, kind of seems like a radical act of liberation, freeing you from judgment and resistance, allowing yourself to flow with intention.
When you surrender to trust, you break free from the confines of control and open yourself to a world of boundless possibilities and profound transformation. Why? Because you have let go of the futile belief in controlling and determining the course of events. Instead, you choose to trust and have faith that everything will unfold as it should. And in that surrender, you find the courage to take steps forward, moving confidently towards the life you envision.
Remember, control and trust cannot coexist together. You cannot hold onto control while placing trust in yourself at the same time. It is always an either/or situation. You could even say they are the opposite of one another. It's a binary choice, a decision you make to either hold onto control or to surrender and trust in the unfolding of your life. You cannot do both at the same time.
When you embrace your path and trust your actions, you approach everything you do with intention, having faith in the eventual outcome. You stop automatically trying to make what you want to happen by manipulating your outside world. You stop coasting on auto pilot or getting yourself swept up into the victim vortex. You gain clarity and perspective, and you allow yourself to see your choices, and you make intentional decisions about how you want to navigate your exploration. Whether they are actions of what you want to accomplish, how you express yourself, or how you behave, whatever you do becomes intentional and you stop blindly reacting, worrying, feeling guilty, and shames partner will no longer be silent. You are not what happened to you. You know you are worthy because you breathe.
This shift towards intentional living and releasing control is undoubtedly the most challenging aspect of your journey up your mountain. It demands that you let go of your grip on the reins and embrace the natural flow of life, a practice you are most likely not accustomed to. However, as you climb to the top, you'll discover that surrendering control unveils new vistas of opportunity. It empowers you to stride forward with confidence and purpose, stepping into your true power.
Remember, releasing control isn't just a suggestion. It's the path that leads you to finding genuine satisfaction with yourself. Why? Because it frees you from worries and anxieties. When you relinquish control, you immerse yourself in the present moment, no longer dwelling on the past or fretting about the future. By staying present, you discover genuine contentment in simply being, without really the need for anything else.
Let's look deeper into the topic of worry, which appears to be a very common experience for so many earth travelers.
Worry typically arises from situations you see as being beyond your control. It involves excessive dwelling and thinking about potential problems or negative outcomes. It can manifest in behaviors such as overthinking, imagining the worst-case scenarios, seeking constant reassurance, and trying to avoid what makes you feel uncomfortable.
Avoidance strategies are often intertwined with worrying, as they create a cycle of avoidance that perpetuate your feelings of anxiety and distress. When you worry about a particular situation or outcome, you may resort to all kinds of avoidance behaviors to escape or alleviate your discomfort.
For example, someone who worries about social interactions, may avoid socializing altogether to sidestep feelings of insecurity or fear of judgment. Similarly, individuals who worry about failure, may procrastinate, or avoid taking action to prevent facing potential disappointment. These avoidance strategies may provide temporary relief from the signal of distressing feelings that are not being acknowledged, but it also reinforces the cycle of worry by preventing you from confronting and addressing your underlying issues. Over time, reliance on avoidance can lead to increased anxiety and a sense of helplessness as you become trapped in patterns of avoidance rather than addressing the root causes of your worries.
It's a response triggered by feelings of concern or unease, serving as a signal that something is not quite right. However, it's important to remember that feelings are signals, not commands. They are communicating a message about your emotional state that is alerting you to respond to something that you feel you have no control over, and you really want to be able to control it. And what do you do automatically, when you are desperately trying to gain control over the situation? You worry about it. When you are faced with a situation you can't control you automatically worry and become concerned.
But herein lies the irony: worrying accomplishes nothing. It is an incredible waste of your time and your energy. Why? Because it doesn't prevent or change anything; instead, it perpetuates your feelings of anxiety, confusion, irritation, frustration, and stress. In other words, it creates what you don’t want. When you worry about your children for example, it only reinforces and encourages them to swirl in the victim vortex.
Why? Because it offers a false sense of control in your uncertain circumstances. Worry only serves to reinforce negative outcomes, such as projecting anxiety onto your children. This is how you inadvertently discourage their sense of empowerment and resilience. It only drains your time and energy, leaving you trapped in a cycle of distress.
This is why we have the expression of you of "worry yourself sick." When you indulge in excessive worrying or anxiety it can also negatively impact your health, leading you to become physically ill. Whenever you worry about whatever it is, pay attention, because you are anticipating that something bad is going to happen.
There is a tremendous power when you unleash and let go of control. Why? Because then you are allowing. You are not only letting go of the need to dictate outcomes, but you are also opening yourself to the flow of life, allowing its natural course to guide you toward unexpected opportunities and experiences. Control is never your friend. Yet we have been conditioned from the moment we are born into this world to think that if you are in control, that it equates with power. That is a construct that needs far more scrutiny than we have given it so far. True power always lies in your trust and faith.
Always remember, the present moment is your point of power; it's where your actions shape your future. When you set an intention to manifest your desires, you do so with unwavering faith.
How does faith bring about your desires you might ask? It's because you trust that your present actions, what you are doing now, are creating the future you envision. You take steps towards your goals, guided by the belief that they will materialize, even if you don't know the exact mechanics or how it will happen. It's about trusting that the now is creating the future you desire. And then, it seems like magic. The seemingly impossible becomes quite possible. So, as you start to witness success unfolding before you, you'll likely be pleasantly surprised at how it all plays out.
When you trust yourself, you also stop hoping for things to happen or change. You know, the old saying, “hope springs eternal,” it foolishly conveys enduring optimism, yet hope alone does not accomplish anything until you couple it with proactive efforts to effect change. Hope no matter how long it springs for, will always lead you to disappointment.
Why? Because hope merely wishes for something to change in relation to what you want it to be. Whereas faith actively contributes to creating what you desire. If you hope you can heal your trauma, it’s a passive desire. But when you have faith in your healing, it becomes an active belief in your ability to overcome, and you take the steps to do so.
Another area where hope causes a significant challenge is when we rely on hoping that outside authorities will address pressing issues like climate change, the global health crisis, food insecurity, and economic inequality. When you place your hope in others, you often fail to take action yourself. You hope someone else will take care of it. This is why hope can leave you feeling hopeless and powerless, whereas trust and faith empowers you to take decisive steps towards your goals. You get off your couch and do something, instead of hoping and waiting to see what happens.
Whether you place your faith in a higher power, the universe, or your own capabilities, it's the energy of faith that propels you forward. With faith, you trust that your intentions will manifest, as you're actively working towards them, allowing them to unfold naturally. You don’t know exactly how or when, you just know that it will, as the energy of faith always brings what you desire.
No one can give you the answers to fix this or that. You already have the answers within you. It is a matter of whether you succumb to outside influences and you believe what they say instead of what you know. If you believe and trust yourself, and follow your own direction, you act upon your own power.
This is how you begin to empower yourself regardless of what is happening outside of you. Regardless of what other people are doing or what they are choosing, you begin to empower yourself when you make your choices for you.
You can actually see yourself as being the primary and the most important and you act upon that. You begin to take actions of creating for yourself, rather than being a victim of what is occurring outside of yourself. It all begins with you. You literally create your reality from the inside projecting outwardly, in each and every situation of your existence. And so, that which you know you bring into your reality.
When you reach the top of your mountain, the outcomes of self-acceptance and trust I mentioned in part one of this episode, become more than just affirmations; they become your natural way of being. You are no longer bound by fear or insecurity, but instead, you embrace authenticity with open arms. The idea of hiding behind masks or pretending to be someone you're not fades away, replaced by a genuine sense of freedom in being yourself. It's no longer scary to show your true feelings, or to be vulnerable with others because you've cultivated a deep sense of self-assurance.
With this newfound confidence, you welcome the good things that life has to offer without any hesitation. You no longer have a need to push away opportunities or to sabotage your own success; instead, you eagerly embrace the support and assistance of others, knowing that it only adds to your own strength.
You recognize your inherent worthiness and understand that you are deserving of love, happiness, and fulfillment simply because you breathe. Your existence is far more valuable than any paper money, gold, silver, or trinkets. But the madness of this world seems to have erroneously told you otherwise, and so, you must come to remember who you are.
Gone are the days of judgment and being unkind towards others who may be different from you. Instead, you celebrate diversity and embrace the unique perspectives and experiences that each of us brings to the table. Differences are no longer viewed as threats, but rather as opportunities for growth and connection with others.
Trusting yourself becomes second nature, as you have come to understand the power of your own intuition and inner wisdom. You no longer doubt your ability to make good choices or to navigate life's challenges with grace and resilience. You approach decisions with confidence and clarity, knowing that you are capable of steering your own ship, and not your feelings.
And perhaps most importantly, you let go of the need for revenge or retribution against those who may have hurt you in the past. Forgiveness and compassion replace any bitterness or resentment, allowing you to cultivate deep and meaningful connections with others based on mutual respect, cooperation, honoring one another, and understanding.
In essence, reaching the peak of self-acceptance and trust transforms not only how you view yourself, but also how you interact with the world around you. It's a journey of liberation and empowerment, where you finally recognize and embrace the fullness of your own potential.
Once you begin to immerse yourself in this knowledge, you'll gain a profound understanding.
Your newfound wisdom becomes your superpower, empowering you to navigate life's twists and turns with grace and resilience. You will no longer feel the need to force outcomes or try to mold circumstances to match your expectations. Instead, you will trust in the natural unfolding of events, embracing the beauty of the present moment.
As we near the end of this phase of the program, I would like to extend my heartfelt gratitude to each and every one of you for embarking on this journey of healing and transformation with me. It takes immense courage to confront your deepest wounds and vulnerabilities, and I commend you for taking this brave step towards healing.
As we look ahead to the next phase of the program, I want to emphasize the importance of sharing your experiences and participating fully in the process. Your voices and insights will be invaluable in guiding our discussions and shaping our collective understanding. Keep in mind that you can spend hours and days studying, but if you do not apply these studies, this knowledge, these principles into your daily life, they become worthless. When you begin to apply that which I am presenting to you, it will become more valuable than all the treasures in the world. As ye sow, so shall you reap.
If you are in a rut, all that is necessary is to make small gains in order to make bigger ones. But any journey begins with a step. You begin with where you are, re-assess your situation, and start changing your thinking and behavior patterns. Then little by little, but in less time than you think, you can pull yourself out of any rut or situation. You always have the power to choose.
Remember, sharing is not only an act of courage, but also a powerful form of connection and communication. By opening up and sharing your stories, you not only allow yourself to be seen and heard, but you also create space for others to do the same. Together, we can offer support, encouragement, and different perspectives that will help us all to grow and heal our psychological wounds.
So, I invite you to begin writing and sharing your letters, thoughts, and experiences. Your participation is crucial to the success of this program, and I am here to support you every step of the way. Together, we will continue our journey towards healing, growth, and our wondrous transformation.
You have the power to manifest the reality you truly desire, by crossing the bridge of what you believe. That which you know, and know that you know, you bring into your reality.
Until next time,
Take self-care.